Tuesday, December 5, 2006

How to Support your Spouse Stressed at Work?

You may have noticed that your spouse struggle with stress at work. Each day brings a frustration and irritability your partner brings in your home from work.

No one wants to watch helplessly as his or her mate suffers from unhealthy stress into depression. We want to take positive action, but we can't fix things by ourselves. Often all we can do is provide support and encouragement during those difficult moments.
Here are few tips for handling the situation ahead.
# 1. Practice Listening:
We all want to share our feelings with Spouse. Partners may need to listen it carefully without evaluating their responses.
# 2. Be content with silence.
To be supportive does not mean equal talking. Recognize that your spouse may not want to update you daily, because reviewing and reliving every event and emotion is additional stress.
# 3. Share the load.
Your mate needs you to acknowledge the emotional and physical demands of stress by offering help in acceptable ways. Volunteer to handle supper and the kids' homework. Hire a neighborhood teen to mow the lawn during the crunch season at work.
# 4. Meet primary needs.
Husbands often need the reassurance of more frequent sexual intimacy when they don't feel successful in the workplace. Stressed-out wives need extra tenderness and affection—such as a simple hug with no strings attached—and more time for conversation.
# 5. Make home a haven.
At times, deliberately choose not to unload every issue and problem from your day during your first minutes together. By waiting to share, you assure your spouse that you're not the next one in line waiting for a piece of him or her.
# 6. Adjust your expectations.
The stressed-out husband or wife may not have much energy at home—for anything. The decision is ours whether to spend the evening sulking or to tenderly kiss them as we give them the evening off.
# 7. Keep your spouse in the picture.
In an effort to help their stressed spouse, some husbands and wives silently start handling all the issues of the household or the children by themselves. They begin to withdraw emotionally, not wanting to burden their mate by sharing any personal struggles. In reality, isolating the beleaguered partner simply communicates that they're a failure at home, too. We need to share the news of a child's success at school or ask for our spouse's advice about a relationship problem, and our mate needs the encouragement of being needed.
# 8. Guard your heart.
When we hear our spouse continually vent about the same people or situations, it's easy to get sucked into their anger and bitterness. Devoting extra time and energy to bolster our spiritual walk allows us to give a husband or wife the prayer support they need—without becoming bitter ourselves.
# 9. Demonstrate unconditional love.
"Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes and always perseveres."
We watch our mates struggle, but we can't win the battle for them. We can't wave a magic wand and make all their aggravations disappear. We can't even promise that our words and actions will lessen their stress. We can, however, offer one important promise to a stressed-out spouse.

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